Women being amazing during crisis! In celebration of National Women’s History Month

During times of crisis, there are always brave women who are willing to sacrifice their safety, time, resources and lives to help and save others. Sometimes these women get forgotten! As an EmpowHER team we have shared some of our favourite incredible women during times of crisis!

Grace Darling – The Rower

At the age of 22, Grace Darling became a national heroine when she responded to a crisis with courage and bravery.  She struggled with the fame and media attention that followed.  I have chosen Grace to commemorate all the amazing women out there who have acted so courageously during the Covid-19 pandemic, without seeking any gratitude. 

Grace was the seventh of nine children, a lighthouse keeper’s daughter and lived with her family on one of the Farne Islands, in Northumberland.  One night during a terrible storm a ship collided with rocks and smashed in half.  Grace saw the shipwreck from her bedroom window and raised the alarm.  The back part of the boat had sunk with 48 passengers on board, while the front became lodged on a rock.  In the perilous waters, Grace and her Dad, William, rowed for a mile to a rock where survivors were stranded.  William climbed out of the boat onto the rock to assess the injuries of the survivors, while Grace stayed in control of the boat fighting the dangerous waves, rowing backwards and forwards, trying to avoid crashing into the reef. In those early hours of 5th September 1838 Grace and her father’s bravery saved 9 peoples’ lives. 

Grace received a Gold Medal of Bravery from the Royal Humane Society.    

Mary Seacole – The Healer

Mary Seacole was a tenacious British-Jamaican healer who wanted to make change and serve during the Crimean War. She applied to the British War Office to be enlisted as a nurse, however, was swiftly refused. She approached Florence Nightingale to join her nursing personal but was also told she was not welcome. As someone who knew the difference she could make, Mary raised the funds from friends and family to travel independently to the battlefield. Here she set up a hotel for the wounded that offered a level of care the war officials were unable to provide. The hotel was built from salvaged driftwood, packing cases, iron sheets, and salvaged architectural items such as glass doors and window-frames.

Mary focused not only on dispensing medicines and caring for the soldier’s ailments, but also looked at improving their diets, giving them a safe and warm place to sleep, social activities and more. She wanted to heal the wounded in every sense.

Mary is someone I often think of in times of my own crisis. I have learnt from her that if your intentions are honest and good. Being told no is just a set back and you will make change.

Irena Sendlerowa – The Social Worker

I am incredibly inspired by the life of Irena Sendlerowa. She was a Catholic social worker in Poland during World War II, who saved the lives of 2,500 Jewish children. At the start of the war, when Germany invaded Poland, she worked to ensure that the poor, elderly and orphaned could access food and financial aid through the state-run canteens, but she also helped Jews who accessed the canteens falsify documents so that they could pass as Catholic and be safer.

In 1941 it become a crime punishable by death to help anyone who was a Jew, but Irena continued her work. She went on to work in the Warsaw Ghetto, where she and her colleagues did everything they could to sneak babies and children out in suitcases and medical bags. She even trained a dog that would bark on command so that it would cover the noise if any of the children cried.

She did this day in and day out, keeping records in the hope that families could be reunited once the war was over.

Even when she was caught, she wouldn’t reveal the names of the others working with her despite being tortured. She was ordered to be executed but was able to escape.

She then created a false identity and worked as a nurse, where she managed to hide five more Jews.

Irena Sendlerowa was a brave woman, who did everything she could to help others, despite the cost and risk to herself. Because of this, she saved thousands of lives.

Dame Claire Bertshinger – The Humanitarian

Claire has given her life to supporting others through a number of different charities, including the International Committee of the Red Cross (ICRC) and Raleigh International. She famously inspired Bob Geldof to organise Band Aid and Live Aid following an interview she gave from Ethiopia during the famine in 1984. In 1991 she received the Florence Nightingale Medal for her work with the ICRC in a dozen different countries.

Despite her fame Claire has always prioritised helping people. She has spoken about the difficult decisions and situations that humanitarians face in trying to help and save everyone, by only being able to help a certain number of people. She has caught dangerous diseases and carried on, nearly been bitten by venomous snakes and carried on, she has been in more crisis than can be counted and yet… she has carried on. She always puts others ahead of herself which inspires me to try and do the same.

Claire encourages and inspires others to volunteer, do humanitarian work and get out of their comfort zones, particularly women. My favourite quote from her is “the empowerment of women, educationally and economically, is a major weapon in the fight against child mortality in the developing world.”

We should all be a little bit more like Claire.

Dr. Flossie Wong-Staal – The Virologist

Dr. Flossie Wong-Staal was a Chinese-American virologist who grew up in Hong Kong and studied and worked in America, doing pioneering research into HIV and AIDS. She spent her life studying the biology of viruses that cause illnesses in people, and was part of the team that discovered that viruses can cause cancers in humans.  In the 80s, as the AIDS epidemic devastated queer communities, she was able to build on her previous work to become the first researcher to clone HIV and show that this was the virus that caused AIDS.  She was doing this work at a time when not all scientists thought that a virus like this could even exist in humans.  Her work led to the development of screening tests and therapies for AIDS, and she continued to do research into this and other diseases such as hepatitis C for the rest of her career.

Dr. Wong-Staal died last year, but in 2007 The Daily Telegraph heralded her at #32 of the “Top 100 Living Geniuses.”   She inspires me because her approach to scientific research was so passionate – she loved the work she was doing, and her genius and hard work led to discoveries that have helped so many people.

Her pioneering HIV research was possible because of discoveries she’d made before the AIDS pandemic, which she was then able to build on to respond to the developing crisis.  I think we’ve seen that again with the amazing work that’s been carried out by scientists across the world to tackle the Covid-19 virus and come up with new vaccines – we can’t forget that these pivotal discoveries are only possible because of lifetimes of hard work and dedication by scientists like Dr. Flossie Wong-Staal throughout history.

Emmeline Pankhurst – The Suffragette

The founder of the suffragettes who fought for voting rights for women amongst a minority of multiple other women. She showed, commitment, consistency and dedication to proposing a change in view from the majority and eventually succeeded after several years. She didn’t only fight for her rights but for those who would otherwise try and ‘shut her up’ including planned threats of murder and starvation. Her determination and motivation inspires me to bring change in my own life and ensure that opportunities are always diverse and available to all.

Last but not least – The Mum! Alfie joined us on work experience and wrote about his Mum.

One reason why I am talking about my mother as an example of one woman in history who has helped me during this crisis, especially during the Coronavirus pandemic, is because she has been one of my biggest supporters. As I was not able to go out my mum talked with me and made me think that there was not even a pandemic and everything was normal.

Cheers to all the amazing Mums out there who have supported us during the Covid-19 crisis!

We hope these women have inspired you as much as they inspire us!

So, we’re going into lockdown again…

What can you do to look after your wellbeing and mental health?

We were expecting this to happen again at some point this year and I’m sure we all understand that this is the right thing and is something that needs to be done to save our NHS. However this doesn’t mean that it hasn’t come as a shock and isn’t affecting us all in a lot of different ways.

I want to reassure anyone reading this that however they are feeling about the current situation that we are in is totally understandable and 100% normal. You’re not alone. All your feelings are valid and it’s okay to have bad days. There is no shame in admitting that you’re not okay.

So, what are some things that we can do to help look after ourselves during this time?

  • Keep in mind that we got through it the first time so we can for sure get through it the second time too.
  • Limit daily news consumption. Don’t get me wrong, it is definitely good to keep yourself informed, however watching the news too much or becoming obsessed with looking at numbers and statistics is bound to increase anxiety and have a negative impact on your mood so try to reduce the amount of time you’re spending on keeping up to date with current affairs.
  • Make sure you have a routine for this time. (Click here to read my post of keeping a routine to maintain our wellbeing during lockdown) Even if this means simply going to bed and waking up at the same time every day. Some kind of structure in your life is going to have a positive impact on our overall wellbeing.

    Uncertainty is a source of anxiety; therefore, a routine will counterbalance this. However, try not to make it to rigid, we don’t need to put ourselves under extra amounts of pressure.
  • Remember, you don’t have to be productive in your downtime. You don’t have to be learning a new language or exercising or perfecting another new skill. If all you did in your time off is make your bed, have a shower and make yourself something to eat then that’s productive too.
  • This one follows on from the last tip, unfollow accounts on your social media that don’t make you feel good. The last thing we need during these times is other people making us feel guilty for not doing things that they are doing or making us feel bad about ourselves.

    You’ll feel much better when you don’t have those people’s content on your social media feed. Maybe try asking your friends and family who they follow and who makes them feel positive and consider following them and see if that makes a difference to your mental health.
  • Set boundaries when working from home. This is so important and helps make sure that we can switch off from work when we need to. Start and finish work at the same time each day where possible and don’t use your work phone or laptop for anything work related once you’ve finished for the day. For any young readers, its great that you’re all still going to school as it makes things feel more normal but don’t worry if you can’t concentrate on homework all the time. Remember to talk to your family and teachers if you’re worried about how you’re feeling.
  • Make a pact with a close friend of family member that you’ll both be honest with each other if you’re not feeling okay or are struggling. We all do the easy thing and say ‘I’m fine thanks’ when someone asks ‘how are you?’ so its good to have someone you know you can be honest with.
  • Make sure to check in with people. (Click here to read my post on staying connected with people during lockdown). Set aside time everyday to call or text friends and family and check in with them about how they’re feeling. It’s important that as we go into another period of being isolated from loved ones that we stay connected.
  • Spend time in nature. Hopefully the weather will hold up during this month and we won’t have too much rain but why not take this time to explore a new park or wooded area near you. Go for a walk to take a break from work or studying and switch off for a while. Take some time for yourself. Breathe in the fresh air and relax. Focus on your senses, what you can see, smell, hear, feel. This really helps keep us grounded and in the present instead of worrying about the past of future.
  • Remember that your mental health should be a top priority. Take time each day to look after yourself. Think back to the last time we went into lockdown and remember all the things that you did to be kind to yourself and look after yourself. Create a self-care plan in place for when you start to feel yourself struggling.
  • And lastly, try to remember that even though it doesn’t feel like it right now things will get better soon. This is a temporary time that we will move past and our lives will be normal again and we will go back to doing things we once took for granted.

If you’re looking for support during this time here are a few sources of help and advice:

  • Samaritans (call 116 123 for free) – for completely confidential support 24/7 from people who are trained to listen to whatever you’re going through. I use them for support to this day so I would highly recommend.
  • Youngminds – https://youngminds.org.uk/ – if you’re supporting a young person or are a young person this has great resources and advice on mental health
  • Childline – https://www.childline.org.uk/ – offers online support and over the phone for anyone up to the age of 18.
  • Mind Infoline (call 0300 123 3393) – for information and advice on mental health problems
  • SHOUT – (text 85258) – 24/7 text service for people in crisis and struggling to cope with how they’re feeling.
  • The Mix – (call 0808 808 4994) – advice and support for young people between the ages of 13 and 25 with mental health concerns.
  • I’d also recommend the app ‘Headspace’ for a whole host of guided meditations as a beginner’s guide to mindfulness.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post, stay safe and I hope you’ll read the next post that I write.

Erna,
EmpowHER intern

My name is Erna, I am 20 years old and I’m an intern for the EmpowHER project at the British Red Cross. I am doing this internship alongside studying for my psychology degree at university. I have enjoyed working with the team on helping to empower young women and girls to take on social action projects and look forward to working with groups in the future. In my spare time I like to draw, go cycling and take my puppy for long walks. I hope you’ll enjoy the series of blog posts that I’ll be doing on taking care of our mental health in lockdown. 

How routine can impact on our mental health

We are creatures of habit, so the fact that we have lost our normal routines at this time can be very unsettling and can take its toll on our mental health.

It is important to remember that we can do things to take back some control that will in turn have a positive impact on our overall wellbeing.

So, what are some of my tips?

  1. Try waking up and going to sleep at the same time each day. We all used to do this as much as we could when we were going to school so this is an easy way to bring back that sense of routine into our lives. I would also like to emphasise that it is very important to listen to our bodies and be compassionate with ourselves, if you want to have a lie in one day that’s perfectly okay.
  1. Use a timetable. If you’re the kind of person that likes structure, you can make your own timetable. If you’re at the age where you are revising for GCSE’s or A levels you can even use your normal school timetable to schedule in time for revision for each subject. This can be helpful in making sure we are spending time doing things we need to do for school in a structured way. I personally don’t find timetables helpful so you can just use it as a guide if you’re the same as me. Also remember not to be too strict with it. We are in a difficult situation at the moment so we don’t need to be hard on ourselves unnecessarily.
  1. Use to – do lists. I am a massive fan of to – do lists. I use them everyday and I’ve found that using them has had a positive impact on my wellbeing. I like to write my list for the next day before I go to bed, this means that when I wake up, I have my day set up and ready to go. I am at university and doing this internship so I like to split up my list into sections and I always include a section called ‘extra’ which is where I put things like ‘go cycling’, ‘wash hair’, ‘clean room’, ‘read 50 pages of book’ depending on the day. Adding things like this means that you can tick it off and reward yourself for doing even the smallest of tasks which is very important for our overall mental health. Lists are great because ticking things off gives us a huge sense of accomplishment and satisfaction.
  1. Make weekends different. I want to stress how important it is to give yourself that break from your schedule Monday to Friday. Just like you had a weekend when you were at school it is just as, if not more important to have a weekend now. Step back and take the weekend as a time to reset and refresh your head. Use it was a time to reflect on any goals you have for the coming week. I find this particularly difficult but in writing this post I have almost set myself my own challenge by saying this and will try and take my own advice and give myself the weekend off. I know some of you, like me, have got a lot of revision and schoolwork to be doing but taking that weekend off will only make you more motivated and make you feel more productive and in the right mindset to start again on Monday.

CHALLENGE

Before you go to bed write down 3 things you want to achieve the next day and check in with those things the next evening. It doesn’t matter how small those things are, it just means that you’ve got a little sense of structure added to your day.

If you’ve been studying on the weekend. Take it off. See if it makes an impact.

Thanks for reading guys, hope to see you in a few days with another post on how exercise can have an impact on our mental health.

Erna
EmpowHER intern

My name is Erna, I am 20 years old and I’m an intern for the EmpowHER project at the British Red Cross. I am doing this internship alongside studying for my psychology degree at university. I have enjoyed working with the team on helping to empower young women and girls to take on social action projects and look forward to working with groups in the future. In my spare time I like to draw, go cycling and take my puppy for long walks. I hope you’ll enjoy the series of blog posts that I’ll be doing on taking care of our mental health in lockdown. 

So what do we mean when we say ‘mental health’??

Good mental health is defined as the state of someone who is “functioning at a satisfactory level psychologically”. This is an official definition which means a lot of people would find it hard to connect with so I’ve written a more accessible definition below.

Just like our physical health is about how healthy our body is our mental health is how healthy our mind is.

The most important thing to remember is that mental health is equally as important as our physical health!

Lockdown is a very unique situation that we are in, we are away from extended family and friends, we don’t have our usual routine, we are less active, spending more time on social media etc. So, it is very normal for our mental health to be affected during this time.

So, how do we know when we are struggling? Here are some things to look out for:

  • Your appetite may change – you may eat more or less
  • Your energy levels may change – you may feel more restless or more tired
  • You might withdraw from talking to family or friends
  • You might stop doing things that you enjoy
  • You may feel tearful or emotional for no apparent reason
  • Your sleep might be disrupted or you may sleep more than normal
  • You might feel overwhelmed

When we notice that we are starting to struggle it is important to remember and be reassured that there are lots of ways that we can look after ourselves and lots of ways that we can seek help and support. 

There are lots of things that we can do and I will be making a range of different blog posts about ‘how to’ do a variety of things that will help maintain good mental health and wellbeing during lockdown, for example; how to change your diet to help your mental health, how to keep a routine during lockdown or how to practice mindfulness.

There are lots of things that we can do and I will be making a range of different blog posts about ‘how to’ do a variety of things that will help maintain good mental health and wellbeing during lockdown, for example; how to change your diet to help your mental health, how to keep a routine during lockdown or how to practice mindfulness.

I’d also like to mention that if you notice yourself feeling or experiencing any of the things I have listed above you can access this link youngminds.org.uk to access YoungMinds where you can get advice and help with lots of things to do with your mental health and wellbeing. This link childline.org.uk to ChildLine offers a range of support too, such as speaking to a counsellor online or reading forums with other young people’s concerns. It is also important to remember that speaking to family and friends about how you’re feeling is an easy way to get ongoing support. 


Thanks for reading and I’ll see you at the end of the week for my next blog post which will be called ‘How to be compassionate with ourselves in lockdown’

My name is Erna, I am 20 years old and I’m an intern for the EmpowHER project at the British Red Cross. I am doing this internship alongside studying for my psychology degree at university. I have enjoyed working with the team on helping to empower young women and girls to take on social action projects and look forward to working with groups in the future. In my spare time I like to draw, go cycling and take my puppy for long walks. I hope you’ll enjoy the series of blog posts that I’ll be doing on taking care of our mental health in lockdown. 

International Women’s Day 2020

I’m Maliha Shakir and I’m a volunteer at the British Red Cross with the EmpowHER project. I am immensely inspired by the work that the EmpowHER team do and the aims they have in order to boost young girls’ confidence and social skills. I am 17 years old and I go to school in Manchester. I have experience of a girls-only school and have seen girls of different ages go through challenging and difficult times of their life like losing their self-awareness and self-esteem, by being a part of the EmpowHER Team, I aim to act on these challenges to promote and boost girls’ confidence to create a positive impact!

This year’s International Women’s Day theme is #EachForEqual. EmpowHER inspires young women and girls to lead change in their communities. Launched to mark the centenary of women’s suffrage, the youth programme encourages young women and girls to use their voices for positive change – just as their predecessors did 100 years ago. Led by UK Youth in partnership with the British Red Cross and Young Women’s Trust, EmpowHER addresses the worryingly low levels of wellbeing amongst young women and girls in the UK and supports them give back to their local communities through inclusive and meaningful social action opportunities. EmpowHER is a two year programme funded by Spirit of 2012 and the #iwill Fund.” So, as stated by the International Women’s Day, let’s be #EachForEqual.

What is International Women’s day?

International Women’s Day (IWD) is celebrated on the 8th of March every year around the world. It is a focal point in the movement for women’s rights.  In some places, it is a day of protest; in others, it is a day that celebrates womanhood. The day has occurred for well over a century, with the first IWD gathering in 1911.

The day is not country, group or organization specific – and belongs to all groups collectively everywhere.’

Quote from https://www.internationalwomensday.com/About

Gloria Steinem, world-renowned feminist, journalist and activist once explained “The story of women’s struggle for equality belongs to no single feminist nor to any one organisation but to the collective efforts of all who care about human rights.”

So, make International Women’s Day your day and do what you can to truly make a positive difference for women.

The EmpowHER project

As the EmpowHER project is at the heart of supporting women in promoting the quality and justice they deserve, International Women’s Day is largely important in celebrating the social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women on the 8th of March. The day also marks a call to action for accelerating gender parity. The EmpowHER project work with young women to support them in raising awareness of issues around young women, well-being, women’s rights, youth work and social action.

 We want to provide a platform for raising questions and sharing challenges for the sectors of charity work and youth work as they work through and engage with issues in these areas.

‘International Women’s Day is all about unity, celebration, reflection, advocacy and action – whatever that looks like globally at a local level. But one thing is for sure, International Women’s Day has been occurring for well over a century – and continues to grow from strength to strength.’

Quote from https://www.internationalwomensday.com/About

IWD in 2020 and beyond…

The world has witnessed a significant change and attitudinal shift in both women’s and society’s thoughts about women’s equality and emancipation. Many from a younger generation may feel that ‘all the battles have been won for women’ while many feminists from the 1970’s know only too well the longevity and ingrained complexity of patriarchy

With more women in the boardroom, greater equality in legislative rights, and an increased critical mass of women’s visibility as impressive role models in every aspect of life, one could think that women have gained true equality. The unfortunate fact is that women are still not paid equally to that of their male counterparts, women still are not present in equal numbers in business or politics, and globally women’s education, health and the violence against them is worse than that of men. 

 However, great improvements have been made. We do have female astronauts and prime ministers, schoolgirls are welcomed into university, women can work and have a family, women have real choices. And so, each year the world inspires women and celebrates their achievements. 

https://www.sthelenslaw.co.uk/international-womens-day-2020/

IWD is an official holiday in many countries including Afghanistan, Armenia, Azerbaijan, Belarus, Burkina Faso, Cambodia, China (for women only), Cuba, Georgia, Guinea-Bissau, Eritrea, Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan, Laos, Madagascar (for women only), Moldova, Mongolia, Montenegro, Nepal (for women only), Russia, Tajikistan, Turkmenistan, Uganda, Ukraine, Uzbekistan, Vietnam and Zambia. The tradition sees men honouring their mothers, wives, girlfriends, colleagues, etc with flowers and small gifts. In some countries IWD has the equivalent status of Mother’s Day where children give small presents to their mothers and grandmothers.

Introducing: Chandni

Today we have a guest post written by one of our incredible EmpowHER role models. We hope you find it as inspiring as we did.

Hello EmpowHER family!

I am really excited to be joining you all as a role model, and wanted to take this opportunity to introduce myself and share with you who some of my role models are and some of the wise advice they shared with me over the years.

About me:

My name is Chandni (you can call me Chans), I have grown up in London my entire life and my passion for this city outweighs all the scary horrible things I often read about in the news. As a child I was unaware the colour of my skin made me different, mainly because no one in my world ever highlighted this obvious fact in a negative way. I was lucky that I had a variety of women to look up to, talk to, identify with and who cared enough to help me grow. My dream is to become someone who helps others, especially when it comes to helping themselves.

That is what I want to share with you today. There are so many women I could talk about but here are a few who really made a difference in my life.

My mum:

My mother has more patience, unconditional love and heart than anyone I have ever met in my entire life. She raised two confident, caring and independent daughters while also caring for her parents who both had Alzheimers, Dementia and Parkinsons (they were dealt a tough hand) and helped anyone who needed it at any time. She taught me to love unconditionally because it is the greatest gift you can give anyone in this world.

Advice from my mum :

“All my life I have strived to be a good parent and friend, I have made mistakes along the way but my children and my friends know I love them above all else. As you get older you realise how important the people in your life are, so squeeze them a little tighter, tell them how much they mean to you and be there to lift them up. Before you know it, time will fly past and you will wish you had done all of those things a million times more than you did.”

Camille:

I have only been working at the British Red Cross for a few months and in that time I am lucky to have met so many incredible, passionate people but there is one person who has truly stood out for me. Camille was my manager for a short period of time (she moved to another team) but she has had a profound and long-lasting effect on me and how I feel about myself.

I honestly believe you only get one “Camille” in your life at any one time. Someone who instantly sees you for your potential and knows how you see yourself and your flaws intuitively. Starting her career at the British Red Cross in the Training and Quality Team she has been a massively part of engaging people in our work, internally motivating and inspiring her colleagues and setting an example of how your sex and colour should never get in the way of your goals.

If you find someone like this make sure you listen to what they say with open ears and an open mind, people who know themselves this well will have lessons that we can all learn but you must be ready to accept them into your life.

Advice from Camille :

“Just try everything, don’t ever let self-doubt or imposter syndrome make you feel you aren’t worthy of even trying!” and “whilst you are being inspired by others don’t forget that there are probably people in your life that you are inspiring!”

Mindy Kaling:

If you don’t know who this is, what have you been doing with your life?! Mindy Kaling is a comedian, writer, producer, director and the kind of woman you want to be your bestie for ever. She has worked on shows like “The Mindy Project” and “The Office” and she was also the first Asian woman I saw on TV who really stood out for me. It was so refreshing to hear someone talk about how they are slightly geeky, will probably never be a size 8 and unapologetically girly and romantic. In a world that tells you that rom-coms “aren’t feminist” she sums up everything I am with a sprinkle of girl boss attitude. She is funny and insightful and did a hilarious and touching commencement speech at Dartmouth College in 2001 (watch it on Youtube, you won’t regret it).

Advice from Mindy Kaling

“Wouldn’t it be better if we worked together to dismantle a system that makes us feel like there’s limited room for us? Because when women work together they can accomplish anything.”

Thank you for reading this blog post, hopefully some of the advice is useful or at least vaguely interesting. If you take anything from this post, take away the fact that you should watch some of Mindy Kaling’s work – She really is hilarious and will make you feel positive for the rest of the week.

Thanks, Chans

Thank you to all of our supporters!

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It’s Supporter Week, and British Red Cross staff have being sending love and gratitude to people all over the country who support us in all kinds of ways.

Clarise spent some of her week at the Thankathon with lots of other staff based in London. They called supporters to thank them for all that they do for the British Red Cross – we really wouldn’t be able to do all that we do to help people in crisis without them.

The EmpowHER team want to say a massive “THANK YOU” to everyone who supports us with their time, treasure and talent.

Thank you to all of the Role Models, Youth Workers, Young People, British Red Cross Staff and Volunteers, and our Funders for all of the support that you give us.
Without all of you, we wouldn’t be able to make EmpowHER what it is.

EmpowHER COV “Girls night out.”

On 22nd August I had the pleasure of attending the Creative Optimistic Visions (COV) EmpowHER group social action event. The group are looked after children and care leavers who have been working with Stacy from COV through the EmpowHER programme. Their social action idea was to highlight the fact that it’s not easy for some young women to let loose and have a good time if they feel they are not in a comfortable, supportive safe space. These girls wanted to create this space for young women to not only enjoy themselves, but to highlight the need for these spaces too.

This invite only event was advertised to other EmpowHER groups in the West Midlands to also showcase what girls can do when they get together to make change.

Whilst planning the event, the girls had asked if the British Red Cross could help them to approach strong female role models to speak on the night. As part of my work as a youth engagement worker, we have access to a database of over 80 “role models”. These women have offered their time to the girls to teach them new skills, offer advice, workshops, mentoring, shadowing, work experience and much more. From listening to the girls wants for their event I knew we had the perfect role model already eager to be involved – Latifah. Latifah works for refugee services within the British Red Cross. Once I had told her about the girl’s idea and how they wanted her to speak at the event and possibly DJ too, she agreed and we begin the all-important planning. I was able to facilitate conversations between Stacy the girls and Latifah in preparation for the event. Latifah also lead a fantastic Q and A about being the only female in a male dominant field such as DJing. The girls asked challenging and thought-provoking questions around the speed of her progression in the DJing community and if that was effected due to gender. This was among questions linked to safety within DJing too. Latifah was able to speak to others at the event about her role within refugee services also, a topic that is close to Coventry’s heart.

On the night itself, I was filled with pride watching the girls put their new-found confidence into practice by taking centre stage and talking to their audience about their journey through EmpowHER and what it meant to them. It was incredible to hear the thanks they were giving to everyone who was involved and articulating so well their understanding of the double benefit that is embedded into what we do.

During the girls social learning, I was also able to pass onto them some of the examples other groups had done around “The Power of Kindess” this included; postcards of love and support handed out at pride parades, positive messages hidden on postcards around schools for people to find, letters and postcards written to be distributed from the British Red Cross refugee support service for newly arrived families and many more. This concept helped to inspire their social action as their entire ethos behind it was to create spaces for other girls to feel comfortable. The power of kindness behind this awesome event was obvious in the warm and positive atmosphere, and it was obvious that the girls were reaping the double-benefit of their work – they were so proud of what they were doing and their confidence shone through. During the evening, I spotted the girls facilitating conversations between girls that had never met before, lots of encouragement to dance, exchanging of social medias amongst making sure people were eating, drinking and having a good time. Whilst on stage they also identified themselves as the go to people at the event for support and questions throughout the night. The concept of kindness was not only evident throughout the evening, but was embedded within it.

Amongst those who spoke on stage were the WeChangeAdversity EmpowHER girls. They have created a reproductive rights and equality Instagram (@wechangeadversity go follow!) and were there to promote their campaign and also inspire the other attendees. These girls had also had the opportunity to engage with some of our role models – this was via zoom instead as their role models were in Ireland and shared stories about the abortion laws there. These girls also held a launch event for their Instagram which also raised £40 for the British Red Cross. Thank you girls!

The girls’ night was such a huge success for the girls. I’m so proud of everything they’ve achieved! They have become amazing advocates for not only EmpowHER but the Power of Kindness too! There were talks of the girls being commissioned for future events like this in the future due to its huge success too, looking forward to seeing how the continue their journey of social action.

Behind the Scenes of An Average Teen

14 year old Azzy has just completed her Duke of Edinburgh Bronze Award by supporting the British Red Cross EmpowHER team. We have been so proud of everything Azzy has achieved and how she has grown during her time supporting the programme. This international youth day we wanted to share a blog post Azzy has written for us. Adults in the British Red Cross asked Azzy questions about what it is like to be a teen today, and below you will find her answers. Thank you for everything you have done for us Azzy, you are a star!

Are the Stereotypes of Teenage Life True?

So firstly, not all teenagers are the same. You get some who are restless, weird, crazy, emotional, moody (I can be all of those combined depending on the time of year). Honestly, I think what makes the teenager particularly different from the other age groups is the stress of growing up. In simple terms, it’s the change of growing from a child to an adult. Therefore, if you relax or not stress too much or try not feel pressured in impressing others, you’ll do fine. *MESSAGE TO ADULTS: I know you want what is best for your child but try not put so much weight on our shoulders. Sometimes you forget that we are children who make mistakes. *

What Is the Most Stressful Thing About Being a Teen?

Easy… GCSEs!!! The amount of times I hear “this sheet of paper will determine your future” or “you only have ONE chance to do this right” I MEAN SERIOUSLY!!! Sometimes I wonder how adults can still question how we get worried easily. *MESSAGE TO ADULTS: I know you want us to do our best in our GCSEs and the best way is to ace our End of Year Exams but I mean… Stop. Please stop. We worry for GCSEs 24/7 let alone an exam every single year. *

How Can Adults Give the Best Advice?

This is possibly the most fascinating question. The answer is to give advice that will benefit our future. Try give us advice on stuff teachers don’t teach us (SO NO PYTHAGORUS TRIPLETS AND NO EQUATIONS!!!- we have books for those) instead maybe you could talk about politics (even though politics is horrific right now) or possibly about economy. Yes, perhaps these topics may seem depressing or sorrowful but it 100% benefits the young developing mind for the future. Just try not sound too boring and too harsh as if the world is hell and should end 😊 Try make it sound as if we are the future and the importance of our voice being heard through vote etc.

Are We Happy?

…. I think I am… (0-0) but as I said teens are humans… WE’RE NOT THE SAME

How Do We Maintain and Navigate Our Relationships/ Friendships?

Honestly, I have never been in a major fight with any of my friends before. Some people can find friends easily without them knowing. Others feel as if they need to fight a little to be noticed by people. (both physically or internally fight… or both…) I believe you shouldn’t change or do anything to be noticed but others may differ. So, in summary I am NOT a teen you can ask about teen arguments (I know some girls who can be a bit of an irritant but I can cope I guess…) and all teens are different. They all make friends differently. I for one don’t mind being my weird nerdy self 😊

How Do We Believe the Future Will Be Like?

Ok… I feel like I’ve said this like 5 times but here we go… WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT!!! If you want my honest opinion, think it is turning out as a disaster and all is lost… but I still have hope things can change.

*NOTE: IF YOU ARE NOT SATISFIED WITH MY ANSWERS FEEL FREE TO ASK ANOTHER TEEN. We are all different and it will help you understand how other teens think differently. *