Guest blog
by Mollie Drew, EmpowHER Role Model
I was pondering what to write about for my first go at an EmpowHER blog when the idea of empowering yourself came to my mind. Until recently, I was struggling with the feeling that I had a lack of autonomy and independence within a few areas in my life.
Upon a change of environment, I have come to realise this was entirely circumstantial. However, the experience enabled me to understand how much happier and empowered I feel when I a) possess autonomy over my own life and b) actually take the time to be mindful in appreciating it. A simple pleasure.
Now I realise this may sound very obvious and even very silly as having autonomy over your own life should be an easy enough thing to possess (sounds like it anyway) … Nevertheless, as much as we all have choices about these things, hectic schedules, busy working and non-working days, friendships, relationships, family and other time commitments, can often leave us feeling unenthused, underwhelmed and a little bit like you’re travelling through life on autopilot. Often, we arrive at this point like a bit of a hot mess, unsure how we got here, but certain we need something to change in fear of losing the plot all together – solely speaking for myself here and just putting it out there.
I didn’t realise how long I had been feeling like this until I stopped feeling like this, or even how much better I now feel for consciously making the effort to change a few things. This ultimately has not only led to me feeling more empowered, but like I am living a more enhanced life as a result. So! Without further ado, here’s the three things I make sure I do (if nothing else), on a daily basis to help myself out.
1. Do something you love:

I am starting with this one as I think it is the most important. It doesn’t have to be a big thing, I know lots of us don’t have time to binge watch How to get away with Murder on Netflix daily, spend two hours making a roast dinner on a random Wednesday evening just because it’s our favourite food, or successfully read and absorb information from all of the books in the long awaited ‘reading pile’.

But it doesn’t have to be a big thing, it could be anything. For me it’s making sure I take 15 minutes to myself to enjoy a cup of tea. That is genuinely it and I absolutely love it. Whether I’m feeling stressed, anxious, overwhelmed or in a perfectly good mood, sitting alone with my thoughts enjoying a cuppa is a small piece of heaven in my day to day life.
2. Help someone:

This is another personal favourite and if you can get in to the habit of doing it, it stands you in good stead for not only being a brilliant volunteer but a brilliant human being too. On the subject of human beings, we can all become a bit human doing (not human being) sometimes, as aforementioned, going through life on autopilot.
Taking a minute to ground yourself and help someone, friend or stranger, with something simple or difficult, is a positive way to ensure you feel grounded. Even if I just so much as make eye contact and smile at someone who looks a little troubled, or help someone find the right bus, I come away knowing I could have made somebody’s day a little bit brighter and that’s always a really nice, humane feeling.
3. Learn something/educate yourself or someone else:
I don’t know about any of you reading this, but I am a massive fan of podcasts. They are easy to listen to, informative, educational and generally quite comical/fun. I often find myself drawing to the end of an episode and realising I have learnt so much more than I anticipated, with very little effort (other than opening my ears and listening).
A few I like to listen to are The Food Medic, Happy Place by Fearne Cotton and The Guilty Feminist. Listening to podcasts can be easy to fit in as you can listen on the go, whilst you’re getting ready in the morning or as a bit of quiet time/wind down before you go to sleep.

I also really enjoy reading this new trend of fiction/non-fiction blend that is populating the book charts recently. Titles such as “When breath becomes air”, “Why we sleep” and “This is going to hurt: Secret diaries of a Junior Doctor” (albeit contain an underlying health theme), but combine story and fact to make powerful, educational and enjoyable reads.
Miraculously, not only are we learning and broadening our minds when we take the time to read books like this, but what’s at the front of our minds often translates into everyday conversations with others. Sharing your opinion or a fact you’ve learned from either source could then ignite someone else’s interest – win win!
The quote “Knowledge is power” comes to mind.
I’m aware none of these tips are rocket science, but sometimes we forget that it is the small things that count the most and over time these really build up to make a substantial difference. I also want to make the point that of course we are all different, these things worked for me and I hope they (or a variation of them), work for you too.
Now let’s all go and get EMPOWERED!












